Hi,
I don't understand people. They claim they are your best friends and will always be there. Then, they fall in love and friendship just flies right out the window. It's no wonder none of my ideas work. How can they when I feel so lousey about everything else going on in my life. For a while things were looking up. And I still have friends. However, I feel that last night someone I considered to be a really good friend dumped a bucket of ice water on me. I am doing something I promised her I would not. Moreover, I swore this friend would not be aware of what I had done. However, maybe I will clue her in. She is probably about to break off our so-called friendship anyway. Why are boyfriends so much more important that friends? I will never understand this. Thanks for reading this post. I know it is quite depressing.
2 comments:
Hi Alycia -
I'm sorry you feel lonely right now. Unfortunately, that happens. My best suggestion is to step away from the computer for a while and DO SOMETHING. Go to a museum. Go to the library. Go to some local historical site. Do some volunteer work.
If you can't leave your home for some reason, then keep focusing on your imagination and write more. Travel the world via the internet. Learn something new - a language, a new game, anything. Find some of those charity sites where you click on a box and money is donated to a charity.
People your age are changing a lot all the time. That is inevitable. Try to expand your horizons and I just bet you'll find some new friends. You never know. Sometimes just smiling warmly, and meaning it, at an old lady will start a fascinating conversation that will get you an introduction to her grandson or an invitation to her bingo club. Open your eyes and your heart. There are many lonely people in the world. Why don't YOU befriend one of them?
Hugs from NC,
V
Alycia-I think it's only natural that as we get older we focus on creating a love relationship with someone. And it does take a lot of time, especially once children come along, friends just can't always come first. But they are always there. It's also hard when you're not in the same area of life as a friend. Some may be married with children and you see less of them. Some might be busy with work and school. Especially for us who work from home, we have to realize that others have a life outside of the house.
I have to agree with Virginia, step away from the computer. Set goals for yourself. Take up a new hobby(that is away from the computer). And when you come on the computer, know what you're here for. Maybe you're going to read blogs, reply to e-mails, chat with someone if they are on.
I think it also helps to look outside of yourself. The charity idea is great. Also, put yourself out to others. E-mail someone new and introduce yourself. And don't forget the friends who ARE around! :) It's often easier to complain about what isn't there and ignore what is.
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